Episodes
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In this episode, you'll hear:
Important aspects of repairing a broken relationship and finding forgiveness
What pain and discomfort are telling us, and how should we observe and respond
The life-changing lessons Lauren learned through yoga
What Dave and Mathew learned through breathwork
Lauren Bernard is a teacher, yogi, and host of the NurishU podcast. She grew up in Omaha, Nebraska, with her older sister and spent a lot of time outside, where she felt at home in nature. Lauren had a large, loving family, but her parents were divorced when she was young, leaving her to experience the struggles of two single parents. Eventually, her father gained full custody of Lauren and her sister, which caused distance to grow between her and her mother. As she transitioned into college and out of the life she knew as a young athlete, Lauren began to lose her sense of self. However, over the years, through her yoga practice, she learned how to see life in color again and began learning how to sit in her discomfort and shift her perspective. Those lessons have carried her through her life and perfectly translated to the work it took to repair her relationship with her mother.
In this episode, Mathew, Dr. Dave, and Lauren discuss how “growing up quickly” impacted Lauren as an adult, why we should forgive our parents, and the role self-forgiveness and acceptance play in repairing relationships. They also discuss how Lauren discovered yoga, what she has learned through her years of practice, how we can observe and understand anger, and how shamanic breathwork works.
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Resources:
Nourish U Podcast
Lauren-Bernard.com
Living in the Light by Deepak Chopra
Dr. David Leicken, MD
Connect with Mathew Blades:
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Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson
Monday May 13, 2024
Monday May 13, 2024
Are You in a Toxic Relationship? How to Know and What to Do About It with Stephanie Quayle
In this episode, you'll hear:
What can you do once you realize you are in a toxic relationship?
Why can romanticizing relationships be dangerous, and what can we do about it?
What is love bombing, and why do we need to shift the way we view ourselves?
Stephanie Quayle is an accomplished country music singer-songwriter and author who grew up in a blended family on a farm in Bozeman, Montana, where they raised bison and cattle. In 2009, she was in a long-term relationship, helping to raise her partner's 12-year-old daughter, and thought she would marry him one day. However, everything changed when he died in a plane crash, and five days later, at his public memorial service, she found out she was not the only woman in his life. The combination of losing the man she loved while finding out he was not the man she thought he was complicated an already chaotic grieving process.
This story inspired her to write On the Edge, a deeply personal album that revealed her hidden self to the world. After releasing it, she quickly came to find out she was not alone. Stephanie tells us that many people reached out to her in solidarity with the complicated emotions of losing a loved one and then finding out about the lies. As her story spread, she knew she wanted to share what had happened to her and what she learned in a bigger way through a book. Not just as a memoir but as a tool to help others. Stephanie worked with W. Keith Campbell, PhD, one of the world’s leading experts in narcissism, to explain what she went through, help readers identify the patterns of a toxic relationship, and outline steps for getting out and healing. Why Do We Stay?: How My Toxic Relationship Can Help You Find Freedom outlines the signs of unhealthy relationships, defines important terms like love bombing, grooming, ego shock, gaslighting, and repetition compulsion, and offers thoughtful reflections at the end of each chapter, which will lead the reader to action.
In this episode, Mathew and Stephanie discuss how her relationship with her step-parents impacted the way she navigated relationships as she grew up, the dangers of romanticizing relationships, and learning to feel worthy of healthy love. Stephine also talks about taking ownership over her actions, how she got out of her toxic relationships, what she learned about herself through the pain, and how she views her past partners now.
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Resources:
Say no without guilt + Starting new habits with Nicole Vignola
Why Do We Stay?: How My Toxic Relationship Can Help You Find Freedom
StephanieQuayle.com
Hear On The Edge on Spotify or Apple Music
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
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Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson
Monday May 06, 2024
Monday May 06, 2024
Do you Blame your Parents for your Issues? Why and How To Shift Your Mindset With Sonia Jhas
“Change will only come when we recognize the shift is ours to make.”
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why do we have to reframe the way we think about our parents and what they taught us?
The difference between self-worth and self-confidence and how they impact your happiness
Sonia's experience with plant medicine and what she learned about herself through it
Sonia Jhas is a mindset and wellness expert who left the corporate world when she realized the ideals instilled in her as a child to chase perfectionism could not make her happy. Having a fast-paced career and constantly working out to be the “right size” wasn’t enough to make her feel accomplished. Now, she is passionate about living a life guided by her own internal compass despite external or societal pressures, being real about what the journey looks like, and inspiring others to live in alignment.
In this episode, Mathew and Sonia discuss her story of choosing healing over comfort, Mathew's relationship with idealized success, and the realization that no one is responsible for the shift you need to make in your life but you. We often tend to point blame towards our parents for the negative traits we see in ourselves, but Sonia tells us we have to rethink the narratives we have about our family to understand that no matter how far away we move or how much “success” we achieve, the only way to break free is to do the internal work ourselves.
Sonia also talks about her experience with plant medicines and how her relationship to perceived success translated to her relationship with her body. She always thought that happiness was just 10 pounds, but realized she would never be happy as long as she saw her body as something that always needed to be fixed.
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Resources:
I’ll Start Again Tomorrow: And Other Lies I’ve Told Myself
Relationship Expert Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick: The age of “Good Enough” parenting and what you do when you mess up
SoniaJhas.com
TEDx talk, ‘Where do the happy people live?’
Dimensions Retreats
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Why Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Should Be an Employment Benefit
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Why Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Should Be an Employment Benefit with Sherry Rais, CEO and Co-Founder of Enthea
In this episode, Mathew and Sherry discuss why employers are starting to pay attention to alternative medicines, what the future of psychedelics in the workplace could look like, and how ketamine increases neuroplasticity in the brain to help us make new connections and reduce activity in the default mode network. Sherry tells us our brains can change, but as we age, change becomes more difficult. Things like meditation, breathwork, prayer, and psychedelics can help. You can't undo the trauma that happened to you, but psychedelics can help you reprogram and move on. They also talk about Mathew's first ketamine journey, and Sherry talks about why no two journeys are the same. She tells us it’s all about “set and setting," meaning your mindset, intentions, and surroundings. Even if you control these factors, there is still no way to control your experience, and there is always an aspect of trusting the process. Some people are afraid of a “bad trip," but Sherry reassures us that, unlike painkillers and other pharmaceuticals, psychedelics are non-toxic, and you cannot die from them or become addicted to them. This is just one of the many reasons some employers are beginning to see the benefits of allowing psychedelic-assisted therapy for their employees.
Sherry Rais is an avid runner, a big fan of chocolate and bread, and the CEO and co-founder of Enthea Ketamine-Assisted Therapy. Enthea is dedicated to providing access to safe and affordable psychedelic-assisted therapy as a public benefit. Before Enthea, Sherry was consulting for the UN and World Bank and pitched psychedelic-assisted therapy in refugee camps and high-conflict areas. That idea was not well received, so when she left to pursue this idea on her own, she expected to be met with more roadblocks, but the impact of the pandemic on people's mental health and more understanding in society at large resulted in much more openness towards psychedelic-assisted therapy. The mental health crisis is also a workforce crisis, so most employers are being more proactive in providing mental health care for their workers.
In this episode, you'll hear:
What ketamine does to our brains, why it could be a useful tool for some people, and how set and setting impact the journey
What psychedelics do that talk therapy can’t
Why Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy is not “doing drugs” and the worst outcomes
Follow the podcast:
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Get LFPWLI Merch here!
Resources:
Enthea.com
Mathews Ketamine ep
Cortney McDermot eps
Stuart Preston ep
Sammy Simpson ep
Lukis Mac
Holotropic Breathwork
Trust Surrender Receive: How MDMA Can Release Us From Trauma and PTSD by Anne Other
How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson